Taking Responsibility without Blame
I am having a really difficult time finding a way to explain to my husband why I did what I did without sounding like I am blaming him and not taking responsibility for my own actions. I have not confessed yet to my husband because he is out of town but I plan to when he gets home.
Because my husband has cheated on me in the past, and I feel like we never got past that, I believe that opened the door for me to cheat on him. I still made the decision, I know. But I have never felt like he took complete responsibility for his actions. We just tried to move on. But I have never trusted him fully. And always felt like I was waiting for him to do it again. It killed any confidence and self worth. However, I have been fairly good at concealing that. But I have definitely craved outside validation from others.
0 comment posted: Thursday, June 19th, 2025
How do I stop missing my AP?
I am a former BS X2. (10 plus years ago) We are still married. We have tried to make our marriage work but I just haven’t been happy. And he knows this. He has had a major alcohol problem and it has really taken a toll on our already fragile marriage over the last few years. I made a mistake and fell in love with a married man. Or at least it seemed like that to both of us. His wife found out recently and he has totally shut me out. I am not mad at this. Neither one of us ever said we would leave our spouse. My husband is out of town and I plan on telling him when he gets back. I just don’t know how to stop missing my AP and thinking about him constantly. We had been in constant communication with each other for over a year and now that is just gone.
4 comments posted: Tuesday, June 17th, 2025
