Arnold01 (original poster member #39751) posted at 6:28 PM on Saturday, April 18th, 2026
It's been 15 months since DDay #2 and since I started my single life. And here's a small happy story for a Saturday morning, as a proof point for thriving after infidelity. Just sharing a little sunshine.
I'm visiting one of my kids out of state. We are meeting up shortly, but I was awake early so decided to explore the farmer's market that is across the street from my hotel this morning. Found a cute coffee shop and got in line, because, being a beautiful Saturday and the farmer's market day, there was a line for coffee. Chatted with other customers, enjoyed the vibe, and eventually got what was a fantastically good iced Americano. Walked around from there, enjoyed the market, saw lots of cute dogs, soaked up the sun. A perfect vacation morning.
Walking back to my hotel, I suddenly had the thought that if I'd been with XWH, none of this would have happened. He refused to wait in line for anything, which now I suspect relates to his narcissism (lines are for other people, but his time is too valuable to be wasted in a line). I could never understand it, as the time it would take to go back to the car, drive to another restaurant / coffee shop, find parking, walk inside, get seated, etc. would be longer than if we'd just stayed at the first place and waited. But he was intensely adamant, and there were countless outings ruined over the years because of his explosiveness about lines and then the whole getting-back-in-the-car and driving elsewhere routine. We all have our quirks and things that make us crazy - his was waiting in line - but it made me smile to think about how peaceful my life is now. I had such a lovely morning even though my morning included waiting in a LONG line. And it was all good. (-:
Me: BW. Together 27y, M 24y
D-Day 1: June 2013
D-Day 2: December 2024
Divorced May 2025
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 12:12 AM on Sunday, April 19th, 2026
And it feels so good to hear this good vibe from you.
Seems like the dark cloud lifted sister.
Enjoy the sunshine!
(Queues or not)
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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 9:58 PM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
...it made me smile to think about how peaceful my life is now.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:00 PM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
...it made me smile to think about how peaceful my life is now.
I love reading this in practically every divorce story including my own.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 4:59 AM on Thursday, April 23rd, 2026
So happy you've found peace! I was just telling a friend that I'm so happy living alone (half the time, when kid is at her dad's) because it's so very peaceful. I'm in charge of my happiness.
Thanks for the lovely update!
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:41 PM on Thursday, April 23rd, 2026
We know compromise has a place in every relationship but we BS seem to take it to extremes. I love when I read about a healing BS realizing how easy life can be when we are not ‘contortioning’ ourselves for our WS.
Love your story - thank you for sharing. (And that sounds like a perfect morning to me :-) )
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
